This is my opinion, Am I wrong?

It's not that I think I'm Dr. Phil but other people think I am. What really pisses me off is that they will actually seek me out for my advvice then when I give it they act like they are really listening and they are going to follow the advice but the truth is they are still going to do whatever the hell they want to do. Let me explain where this is coming from.....

Last week as I was turning the corner to my house I noticed a familiar car outside. It was my cousin's husband's ex-wife's truck. Did you understand that? If not take a minute to read over it again. I'll wait......You got it? So when I got in the house my daughter told me that my cother cousin called me and she wanted me to call her and it was kinda important. This ain't the cousin who lives right down the street from me. It was her sister who lives across town. So I called her to get the scoop on what was going on. She told me that my other cousin, I'll call her "T" and her husband were having an arguement over something that supposedly happened between their children. Her husband told her if he finds out that what his son is accusing her son of doing is true then he is leaving her. That is where his ex-wife comes in at. He actually had the balls to call her to come and get him and his kids because he was leaving "T". So she was patiently parked outside of their house and waiting for him to get his stuff and come with her. WTF!! When I heard that I was like "you gotta be kiddin me" "T" was basically almost begging him to stay. Can you believe that BS. The reason why that was such a bad situation( as if I really have to explain what is so bad about it) She had a lot of problems with this woman at the beginning of the relationship. She was always very protective of his children eventhough they are not her kids and she still wanted to play mommy to them eventhough they had been broken up for a while. She has always wanted him back and was very devastated when he proposed to "T". So with all that has happened between this woman and "T" I could not believe she was now bold enough to be sitting outside of my cousin's house and waiting for him to leave her! I really could not believe my cousin didn't go the hell off and beat the shyte out of both of them and send his sorry ass packing.

On top of him just flat out disrespecting her like that, he had the nerve to pull up in front of their house earlier that day and he was driving her truck. He claimd that he just ran into her and he needed to run a few errands so she let him use her truck. The more I was hearing about the story the more pissed I was getting. Actually there is so much more to this story but I just really don't feel like telling every thing because that would make this blog about a mile long.

Like first of all. He hasn't worked ever since they got married in June. What grown ass man wants to just lay around and not be able to provide for his family. Meanwhile "T" has basically borrowed money from all her friends and family members. He doesn' t worry to much about anything because he knows she will take care of everything. Her mom has talked to her and she has expressed to her mother that she sometimes regrets marrying him. Our grandmother has told her that she needs to do something about her situation because she is really doing bad right now. The way she is living is wrong. He doesn't take care of his own kids. She does everythng while he goes to Yu-gi o Tornaments. Yes you heard me. He is a grown ass man and he plays video games with a vengence. He has Yu-gi o cards and everything. But he has no freakin JOB. He is very lazy and has a dam nerve to be demanding. I swear I could go on and on. I could really tell you some things that would make your head spin but like I said that would make this a mile long.

Yesterday she came to my house and I couldn't really talk because I was getting ready for work and I was already running late as usual. She wanted me to come to her new house because they moved a few days ago (thank god). She said she really need to talk to me. She tried to quickly explain to me that things weren't what they appeared to be the other day. She said she values my opinion and she would like some advice on something. I said ok. I told her I would come over the next day and talk to her.

NOW.... Like I said at the beginning of the blog, why do people act like they are so interested in what you have to say when they know they are still going to do what they want to do. I know dam well she knows me well enough to know that my response is going to be "you need to get a freakin divorce" I know that sounds harsh but why would anyone put up with that shit? Why would you be a 39 year old woman married to a 29 year old boy with 4 kids, no job, no money, babymomma drama, ex-wife drama? He is disrespectful. He is lazy. He is a slob. He is a "supposed" Muslim. She is a Christian woman. That fact right there has been a problem in their relationship. There are just so many things that is wrong with what is going on in their relationship. I am a firm believer that you don't know what's going on between a man and a woman. You don't really know how they feel about each other. You don't know about the intimate talks they may have in the comfort of their bedroom. Only they really know what is going on with them. But I'm not talking about feelings. I'm talking about the other things that factor in and there are to many other things that are a factor. There is no way at the age of 39 I would have entered into a relationship that had so many strikes against us. If they were young and just starting out and they were going to build together that is somehing different. But the fact is he is young and he came into her life with all this baggage. She is going backward. Now she is taking care of his bad ass kids that are not hers when her kids are older. She is broke beyond belief and she has never done this bad before. There has just been one problem after the other and I just want to know what the hell makes her think it is worth it. Is it because she wants to be able to say that she has a husband? I'm sorry but I will be single before I deal with that headache. So anyway I'm going to tell her she needs to get the marriage annulled and keep it moving and if his ex-wife wants him back so bad let him be her freakin headache.