Maybe I need to give more details

Since I got such a strong response from my blog sistahs I wanted to reply to what everyone is saying about me and "R". First let me say that I aprreciate everyone's opinion on the situation. Everyone seemed to be quite concerned and that really made me feel the love :-).

Maybe I should have been a little more specific about my plans with "R". When I said I plan on moving in with him I meant in about another year. I'm not packed up and ready to go like right now. I'm just thinking long term. Eventually that is something I want to happen. That is after we officially get back together and we are going strong for a while. I didn't mean for you guys to think I was just about to give up everything right now and just move myself into his house. I'm not crazy. I am aware of how I do get bored with men.

Now as far as this other woman. I feel like everyone is being too critical. But I guess I do understand everyone's concern. Please keep in mind that I am still actively dealing with the bouncer. Also keep in mind that it has only been 2 weeks since me and "R" even started dating again. Note the word "dating" that's all we are doing. So therefore it is not unusual for him to have someone else around. He was up front with me from the very beginning. Just like he was honest with me the first time we was together. He hasn't given me any reason not to trust him. Once we have "the talk" about where our relationship is going then we will deal with us getting rid of the other people. We have already talked about the things we plan on doing over the summer. I already have full access to him and his house. It's like I never even left. I don't even know when or if he has found the time to be with her. As a matter of fact I will see him tomorrow and we are going to really have a heart to heart. Plus I need to figure out what's going on because when me and the bouncer started dating we promised each other that we wouldn't play any games. He can kinda sense something is going on but I keep assuring him that everything is cool. I don't like lieing to him like that. If this was back in the day when I just didn't give a fuck about anyone's feeling then I wouldn't feel bad. But I'm older and much more mature and I'm not into hurting people anymore. That shit just ain't cute. But the real reason is because I think the bouncer might be just a tad bit dangerous. He has stalker tendencies. And I can tell that he can definitely have a temper. He claims he is a reformed crazy, derainged, jealous person but I can still see traces of that person lurking around. "R" can definitely be a beast also. He is so calm and cool. But if he gets mad, it's all over. He told me he only has 2 gears. He goes from calm to the Hulk. There is no in between. So that's the reason he tries to let everything roll off his shoulders.

With those two types of men I don't need shit to come to a head.

But anyway I just wanted to clear up the reason why he still has someone around. But like I already said, she is not a threat to me. I know how he feels about me. Not only that I know that I kinda hurt him the first time. But like Luther said, Love will be there, better than ever, the second time around. Come on now don't act like you don't know what song I'm talking about :-)

When I get engaged I'll be sure to invite all my blog sistahs to the wedding. Keep looking out for your invitation.