HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN

It's with a heavy heart I bring myself to blog about this most unfortunate incident....A very close friend of mine, actually she is more like a family member. She lost her children today to dyfuss. It's a very long story as to how she became to have a dyfuss case in the first place.She has been having problems with her oldest son. She had been reaching out to various organizations to get help for him because she started to realize that he was getting out of control. Things had been going smoothly for a while then just recently things began to spin out of control again. In the meantime she also has two little girls. She is a struggling single mother and works very hard. Her son was suspended from school for two days and she had no knowledge until after the fact. That is only because she leaves for work before he leaves for school. He also gets home a few minutes before she does so he was able to pull that off for 2 days. In her defense I have to say I understand what it's like to have a "latch-key" kid. Fortunately I don't have to worry about that on a daily basis. But still he is old enough to be responsible enough to do what he has to do. That is just an example of some of his shananigans. He has quite a history. Anyway because of his behavior problems her 2 innocent girls have to suffer. I know how this must sound to everyone. It sounds as if I'm bitter towards her son...well I am. I know all to well that you will love your child always and forever no matter if they are right or wrong...BUT...This is my question: If he has blatantly endangered the wellfare of her other children does she have to make a choice between him and them? I know that seems a little harsh, but there are secrets amoungst them that I can not disclose. I do realize that I may not be equipped to answer the question I just asked because I only have one child. I do not have to split up my love, time, or attention between multiple children. So maybe I'm bias because I only have one child and she is a girl. So I look at her as a young woman, and as a young woman there are certain things that she needs to be protected from because it is precious. (read between the lines). They say you never know what you would do in a situation unless and until you are in that situation.

When I went to her house to see her right after it happened she was in complete disaray. My heart immedietly sank. I tried to put myself in her shoes but I couldn't even allow myself to think about some strangers having my child and I have no knowledge of her whereabouts. It was as if someone died. You know how you feel when someone looses a love one and you don't know what to sat to them. They don't want to her the usual bullshit. Don't tell them" it will be alright". Don't tell them" we will get thru this". Don't tell them" if you need me for something just let me know". None of that makes them feel any better. So the best thing to do is not say anything at all just listen. That's what I did. When I couldn't take it anymore I just gave her a big hug, and a kiss, and told her that I loved her...............What else could I do?